On a forum, it is difficult to always get the meaning, since there are no facial expressions and tone of voice to put with the words (as PigCicles pointed out)...Soooooo...here is a good rule of thumb - If someone says something like "...Lazy!!!!", and then they follow it with an EMOTICON with the tongue sticking out in a funny way, that comment should be taken as a JOKE, and not taken seriously. That's what emoticons are for. They are there to add "tone." I agree that reading before you submit a post, and making sure you can't be misunderstood is a very good thing! BUT, at the same time, folks should try not to be oversensitive about what is posted. I re-read the entire Spaghetti thread, and I took smoked's comments as just poking fun at those who "dared" to use a commercial sauce. Sharp tongued maybe, but joking just the same. Important Addendum: I don't speak for my husband.