Need to vent non bbq.

Discussion in 'Messages for All Guests and Members' started by ecto1, Sep 13, 2011.

  1. daveomak

    daveomak Smoking Guru OTBS Member SMF Premier Member

    ECTO you are a big hearted, stand-up man.... fortunately, for your neice, she will know what a real father is like.. your heart is bigger than an UDS....

    Dave
     
  2. bmudd14474

    bmudd14474 Smoking Guru Staff Member Administrator Group Lead OTBS Member SMF Premier Member

    Ill be praying for you. This is alot to take on. If you need anything let me know.
     
  3. venture

    venture Smoking Guru OTBS Member

    I know you will do a great job and that you will be blessed.

    Good luck and good smoking.
     
  4. oldschoolbbq

    oldschoolbbq Smoking Guru OTBS Member

        Prayers on the way,and if you need any help,I'd be there to offer my hand.God love you and know you did good.
     
  5. tyotrain

    tyotrain Master of the Pit

    Good things come to good people.. You will see...
     
  6. michael ark

    michael ark Master of the Pit

    The war on drugs is a war on our family members you can't pick them.We need treatment for our family's not to tear them apart.I say family's because it will work better than negative punishment .That just breeds contempt.
     
  7. eman

    eman Smoking Guru Staff Member Moderator OTBS Member

    I would tend to agree w/ you if no children are involved , But w/ a small child in that inviroment, (as much as i hate to say it) the state has to step in and get the child out of the harmful inviroment.
     
  8. Big thumbs up for you Ecto1 on stepping in to be a REAL MAN and role model for her....  I belong to Bikers Against Child Abuse and see and deal with these situations all the time... And emotional abuse is sometimes worst than the phyiscal abuse... If she goes to state I hope and pray you will be able to fight for her and bring her into a loving and happy home...  If you need an extra hand with welcoming her in I may be able to get with my brothers and sisters of BACA in TX to help you out there... Just send me email if needed....   And you will be in our thoughts and prayes Brother
     
  9. ecto1

    ecto1 Master of the Pit Group Lead OTBS Member

    I am pretty sure everything is going to be finalized today the background checks went through like I knew they would.  We got a new bed set up don't know if this will be for a few months or 13 years but we will make it work either way.  Flutterbye1 thanks for the offer I am so overwhelmed right now I would not even know where to start.  I am sure we will be fine we are just going to take it one day at a time.  I don't know exactly what she will show up with may just be the shirt on her back.  I am going to have to take a day off of work to register her in school and make sure the parents are on the do not pick up list.  I have a ton of questions for CPS but they may be the hardest people to get a hold of in the world.  
     
  10. terry colwell

    terry colwell Smoking Fanatic

    ECTO,,,

     I totally know how you feel. I am a father of 4, 2 mine 2 my second wife. We got down to the LAST one in the house and then my daughter got pregnant, had the baby and left it with us. We have raised or Grand daughter ALL her life so far, she is 4 now and this home is all she knows . She has tried several times at "mommys" but always calls PaPa to come get her.. All I can say is pull up your pants and get on with it, Family has a way of breaking your heart the most.

     But if this little girl left me now it would Devastate me now, I didnt expect to be "raising a little one" after 24 years of raising kids already,but,, I just could not turn my back on a innocent baby... Good Luck and I hope you the Very Best and I will send prayer to your little girl and your family. Try always to look at this thru HER eyes. It might help get you over the "tough" spots...
     
  11. ecto1

    ecto1 Master of the Pit Group Lead OTBS Member

    Well I have custody as of tonight looks like the state is still going to step in but hopefully we will be named the foster parents.  But for now she is safe in our house I have a felling all hell is going to break lose when her moms family learns they don't have visitation right now.  Glad we all had a clean record that helped move everything faster. 
     
  12. carpetride

    carpetride Master of the Pit OTBS Member SMF Premier Member

    Glad you are able to give this child a loving home, she will not ever forget that as she gets older.  An employee of mine had to do something very similar earlier this year with an older child.  True character can be best judged during times of stress.
     
  13. africanmeat

    africanmeat Master of the Pit OTBS Member

    I can just say ECTO1 you are a man with a heart of gold .i salute you
     
  14. bearcarver

    bearcarver Smoking Guru OTBS Member

    What Todd said, plus----"I am proud to know you, Ecto"

    Bear
     
  15. ecto1

    ecto1 Master of the Pit Group Lead OTBS Member

    My brother and his wife are so stupid.  They threatened the CPS worker today so now the child may wind up away from family at least for a while.  My poor wife has gone through every emotion possible this week.  I know this is not BBQ thank you for letting me vent on here I need to cook something quick to take my mind off this stuff.  I got to get my house ready for a home study just in case we are allowed to foster her.
     
  16. justpassingthru

    justpassingthru Smoking Fanatic OTBS Member

    Ecto,

    What you, your wife and family are doing is highly commendable, and the recompense from nurturing and correctly raising a child will be immeasurable.

    I think I saw a typo in your post, I'm sure you meant "get" rather than "have" to take a day off from work, ...your presence, the strength and love she will receive from you being there in that frightening time will go a long way in helping her to bond to you and your family, ...remember she has been last for five years.

    Children are a reward from God, ...for Him to have chosen you and your family to receive this precious one speaks very highly of you character.

    If you don't mind may I suggest you not ask too many questions of CPS, once you have her let sleeping dogs lie, ...but rather learn what is the law and what your rights are from competent legal counsel that you trust.

    And may I add, the caliber of the previous posters shows the excellence of SMF, I'm glad to know you and be a member here, I'm sure that any of you, put in the same position, would unselfishly step up and do what ecto is doing.

    Viva le SMF!!!

    Gene 
     
  17. roller

    roller Smoking Guru SMF Premier Member

    May the Lord look down on you and protect you !!!!!!
     
  18. michael ark

    michael ark Master of the Pit

    I have work at a children youth services 3 years.Talked to allot of people on both sides.It was awful when a good kid was put with the delinquents and made into a bad kid. Because the parents are on drugs and the system get involved and the other members of the family that actually know the child and whats best for them can't keep them out of it  till they jump through hoops and made to lick boots .I think all rights should revert to living relatives and the state should butt out.The parents can get back custody after rehab is completed.
     
  19. smokey mo

    smokey mo Smoking Fanatic OTBS Member

    Ecto, I have nothing to offer you save prayer to a mighty God that looks for the crazy impossible things in this world so he can show how fantastic he is.  When bad things happen to good people it gives him a way to show you love so you can in turn show love back to others.   I have no doubt in my mind that you are a great man. Heavy times are coming.  Look up and ask that God may bless you and this small bundle of joy.  All things work for the good brother...even this.

    I am putting you and your family on my families prayer list.  Please let me know how we can pray for you.  PM me if you need to talk or vent.

    god grace and peace to you and your family.

    Rick
     
  20. ecto1

    ecto1 Master of the Pit Group Lead OTBS Member

    Thanks Rick today was a tough day. We had court and my sister in law told the judge she would rather see her daughter in the care of the state than with my family. The judge told her that was not her decision and it got ugly fast. Then she threatened my family and lost visitation. My niece is doing so much better in just a few weeks she gets to be a kid again. It breaks my heart to see what drugs have done to my brother and I hope this is a wake up call. I fear for his life as she has a history of domestic violence. Day's like this remind me of the book of Job in the Bible. I think i will read that story to all my kids this weekend.
     

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