I'm going to be away for a while.

Discussion in 'Messages for All Guests and Members' started by smokedcaveman, Sep 7, 2008.

  1. smokedcaveman

    smokedcaveman Smoke Blower

    I'm sorry to say, guys, but Today's hitting me hard. It would have been M and my 2 year anniversary. We're not even speaking, and I really feel like my life is totally out of order, and a complete wreck, so I'm going to be taking some time to get my head straight. I've never had a female mess me up like this before, and I've been asking myself for who knows how long where things went wrong, living the part of the lovesick and heartbroken fool. I don't know when I'll be back, if I come back (doesn't mean I will or won't) or if I'll even be the same person when I do.

    I'll probably check in in a few days, depending on how I feel, but for right now...(shrugs) I feel like I've had a lover's quarrel with life itself, and nothing seems 'right' anymore.

    So I wanted to let you guys know, before I just vanished and you guys wondered if I died or something. I'm so messed up, I'm not even smoking meat right now.
  2. richoso1

    richoso1 Smoking Guru OTBS Member SMF Premier Member

    Sorry to hear about the relationship, you'll have to take it one day at a time. As far as your head being messed up, I've gone through that and found that some counseling really helped me. Sometimes it's good to know if you're doing something right or wrong. If you keep in touch with the friends in your life, it does help, even if they don't offer help or take a side. I sincerely hope things work out for you. Keep your head up, it makes watching a new sunrise a little easier.
  3. supervman

    supervman Smoking Fanatic

    Ah, lots of fish in the sea. It just wasn't right this time.
    Keep on fishing.
    It'll be OK.
    Chin up, pull a smoke, call a friend or two.
  4. smokedcaveman

    smokedcaveman Smoke Blower

    thanks guys. I appreciate the support.

    Supervman...there may be a lot of fish in the sea, but who wants to date a fish? (note, this is intended to be a semihumorous statement, and not cranky sarcasm. I'm having trouble telling the difference of how it's coming out right now.)
  5. erain

    erain Master of the Pit OTBS Member SMF Premier Member

    sorry to hear caveman, do what you need to do to get your life back on track and hopefully the other pieces will fall into place as well. if you need to take some time off from here to get that accomplished then by all means go for it. remember though if ever in need of some support or just plain chat or look at posts to take mind off probs for a bit, dont forget we are here to help and assist when possible. none of our lives are perfect and i think i can safley say we all have gone through probs at one time or another in our lives. so keep your attitude up and have a daily routine to follow to base yourself from. wishing you the best of luck and hope all turns out well and we see ya again sooner than later
  6. travcoman45

    travcoman45 Master of the Pit OTBS Member

    One needs ta clear there head sometimes, ya do what ya have ta.

    When yer ready, just remember, there's always a stump fer ya, sit down pop the top on yer favorite cool one an enjoy a smoke an some good friends down in the holler.

    Good luck.
  7. capt dan

    capt dan Master of the Pit OTBS Member

    Hang in there buddy. It'll work out, It has to, and always will. Things happen for a reason. No matter who's fault or why, just step back and take a time out. We'll be here when ya need us.[​IMG]
  8. oldschoolbbq

    oldschoolbbq Smoking Guru OTBS Member

    I think I may be of some help. I have experience in relationships; I've been married (5) times, so that makes me an expert dosen't it? Anyway, if you need some counseling, give a ring at 555-she's the loser!!!

    For real though, don't be stupid and do anything outrageous. If yer a church goin man, see yer Parson, he's always a good start.

    Here's to ya, I know the feeling![​IMG]
  9. justsmoke2

    justsmoke2 Smoking Fanatic

    Well you could do what we did for my brother. We had a bachalor party seemed to perk him right up. Hope the best for ya.
  10. morkdach

    morkdach Master of the Pit OTBS Member

    what he said^ life is short take care of your health and your loved ones all the rest will come to you in time take care time will heal.
  11. smokedcaveman

    smokedcaveman Smoke Blower

    yeah, I'm getting back to working out some, lifting some weights, trying to get my diet straight, and concentrating on college. If she's wanting to miss out, then...she can miss out. She knows where to find me, and she knows what she has to do for things to be straight.

    and since I'm going to be working out more and eating like a fiend, I'll probably be smoking more than reading about it. I'm already processing and eating jerky so regularly that I can't remember to get q-view of it.
  12. mulepackin

    mulepackin Master of the Pit OTBS Member SMF Premier Member

    Hang tough Caveman. Get to where you are around those things and or people you can depend on, be comfortable around and support you. Things usually work out as they were meant to be, its often just a damn long rough road to get there. Lots of us pulling for you.
  13. phreak

    phreak Meat Mopper

    when I was in that situation I moved to the beach and spent every free minute fishing, getting drunk, chasing girls, getting drunk, surfing, getting drunk, biking, getting drunk...then I met the woman that stopped me in my tracks and made me realize there's more to life than fishing, surfing and biking.[​IMG]

    dude, seriously you're in college, get as much [email protected]% as you can, if you don't you'll regret if for the rest of your life.
  14. solar

    solar Smoking Fanatic SMF Premier Member

    Glad you're starting to feel better, your first post had me a little worried.

    +1 !!!

    My girl and I broke up just before we both left for college, we were in love and thought we would be married, but we knew that we couldn't be apart that long. Once the clouds cleared, it was the best thing that ever happened to me, I was chasing and being chased by young college girls for a few years. You need to get it out of yah before you settle down with thee girl. Enjoy your 20's because they will be gone before you know it. [​IMG]
  15. supervman

    supervman Smoking Fanatic

    Like I said before, GO FISHING, and in College I HIGHLY recommend catch and release! You'll have fun fishing and "EVENTUALLY" you'll find one you don't want to throw back ! because by then you'll know EXACTLY what you want Bro.
  16. smokedcaveman

    smokedcaveman Smoke Blower

    hehe....well, my 20's have done gone, I'm a returning student, but still doesn't stop me from fishing. I know what I want, and have for quite a while. gods only know I've seen enough of what I 'don't want' (makes face)

    the great irony, she contacted me today, and we had a decent conversation. I told her I'm nto getting involved with her, no second chances, unless the situation changed so much that she proved she was worthwhile.

    told her 'look, just because I love you doesnt' mean I have to go along with whatever harebrained bull**** you come up with. It means I'm gonna say no, and if you respect me at all, you're going to accept that.' I'm in no hurry, and if she straightens out (and I've seen enough bs to know if she hadn't), she's the only person I'd give a second chance to. But that doesn't mean I'm going to jump at the chance.

    I'm having too much fun letting the college girls chase me as 'the older man'.
  17. justsmoke2

    justsmoke2 Smoking Fanatic

    Good thing you wasn't in my Boat. When I iniatially joined the Army I went delayed entry and signed for 2 years. Well she came back and said we could be married after I get out. Well Uncle Sam came up with a school called ADM a munitions school. BUTTTTTT I had to change to a 4 year enlistment but I got to choose where I would serve. Talked to my fiance that I could get Hawaii and she said go for it. Well 2 weeks after I changed my enlistment I broke it off with her. To make a long story short I never got to Hawaii, I never got married to her, I ended up in California, then to Germany. origionally I wanted to go to Korea to get a kick aZz stereo. Never got the stereo, and was stuck doing an extra 2 years. BUTTTTTT I did find SMF so all was not a lost.
  18. azkitch

    azkitch Smoke Blower

    Yes, we've all been there. You have to live your life, and someone that likes the way you live has to go along for the ride--and vise versa. Do as I say, not as I do. Or did.
    Anyway, hang tough.
  19. cman95

    cman95 Master of the Pit SMF Premier Member

    Hang in there man. If it is supposed to be....it will. If not.....so much for the better. Life is too short to be with the wrong person. Hope all works out for you. Now get the TBS going.
  20. smokedcaveman

    smokedcaveman Smoke Blower

    I plan on seeing TBS soon. one of my neighbors came over last night and asked if I were dead. 'why?' 'no bbq smoke for over two weeks. What's wrong with you?'

    I get a sizeable cheque in about 10 days, so that's going to meat, and I've got two fairly massive deadfall pecan branches/logs to cut down for smoker wood. Mix that with some of my hickory and mesquite I've got sitting by, and get at least a chicken or some ribs or something. I'm starting to get anxious...lol. To deal with the urge, I've been out, practicing my spear-throwing and working on classwork.

    Even my local aquainteces are rather like 'you smell like soap, not smoke...are you alright?'

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